A while back I read a post about The Lies and Truths of Marriage
& my goodness was it on point.
For those of you who like to read: read it. (It's really good!)
For those of you who don't: My favorite line was "REAL LOVE IS A DAILY DECISION TO GET TO WORK. LOVE IS WORK DONE BY TIRED, HOPEFUL, ORDINARY FOLKS."
Ben and I celebrated one year of marriage this past Monday, May 5th. We did not have a "magical, wonderful, amazingly perfect" year. Well, to be fair.. it was amazing & wonderful & even a bit magical.
But not because it was just that easy
& it wasn't perfect by a long shot.
We did have a tough year. I moved away from my entire family, the next month I found out we were expecting,
then we found out we weren't.
There were fights & arguments (one that involved throwing a spatula).
We had learned to live with each other and understand each other's quirks.
It's not easy going from a full time, long distance relationship -to-
living with & being around that same person 24/7.
Heck, it's not easy when you HAVE lived with the person before.
Marriage is a whole different ball game folks.
There were plenty of times that I wanted to get in the car and drive back to AZ.
Thinking "What the heck did I get myself into?"
Then I remembered: I decided this. I made this decision. I made a commitment to Ben, to myself, and to God & that's a promise you honor.
& It's a promise I will be happy to honor for the rest of my life.
Most of the time (;
Like the above post said, Love is work.
Hard, brutal, trying work.
But it's definitely worth it.
Just like the little seeds I have sitting in a box of dirt on my patio,
my marriage needs attention, love, & the willingness to get my hands dirty
to make sure that it grows.
So yeah, the first year was hard. True.
& they say the first year is the hardest but I don't know about that.
I know we have many trials and tribulations to face; each one of them unique from the last.
I would love to say that it will be smooth sailing from here on out.
But I'm choosing to believe this is just the start of our ride.
We're just those little seeds in the dirt.
We have a long way to go, but if we do it right we can really be something beautiful.
Happy Anniversary love!
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